“In your twenties, you make your habits. From thirty onward, your habits make you.” I read this when I turned twenty and took it to heart. For ten years, I have consciously tried to build routines and orbits that fulfill me. Establishing a workout routine was the hardest. Establishing social…

Always a troublesome relationship with books. I have picked up Henry Miller’s “The Books in My Life” — everything written by Henry Miller intoxicates me (which is certainly his intention) and this book is no different. …

[Originally published 12/25/22] I often tell myself that I hate writing, mostly because I only write when I am extremely sad. Sometimes, it feels like I can’t write anything unless I tap into this sadness, which in turn makes me avoid writing altogether. I often tell myself that I hate…

I’ve been having a rough go these past couple of weeks. I’ve been navigating changes in my personal life and my professional life, and I feel very tired, depleted, and discouraged. I cried in a meeting with one of my managers this week, as I realized that I’m hitting the…

I manage a community of communities — that is, I work with over 5k admins who manage online spaces with member counts ranging from 500 to 800k. Every week they come to me with questions like “What are the best practices for running online communities?” Here are the three questions…

The first time I smoked weed was with my friend Lucas. We were underclassman in high school in 2009, and one foggy weekend we hiked through the hills, got stoned, and made up some stupid songs together. Now it’s 2022 and I’m taking a bong rip on my day off…

One of the things I miss the most about working in cafes is shooting the shit. This was the ability to fill thirty seconds to a minute with vanilla conversation that maybe made a person’s day 5–10% better. …

Dear Friend, It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to sit down and write. There’s been a lot distracting me and over the past year it has felt like the world needed less words and more action (even if that action is simply rest). …

Today we’re mostly at home and incredibly online. It can be frustrating, lonely, and boring to not be able to go to cafes or cookouts, but ultimately it’s necessary. In the Before-Times, I was extremely social, and made it a point to hang out with as many different groups and…